The Birds and the Bees

On sunday, cas and I went to our local kiosk to get some  sugar and on or way we met with dogs mating- its not a pretty sight, wanted to go back and use another path hoping that cas had not seen the dogs..too late I think she noticed them before me, eyes were wide open. Mind is going please baby don’t ask me what they are doing, pleaseeeeese. Huh even before my fingers are closed, cas blurts , “mom why are the dogs shoving each other from behind…aaah baby why at this time, am feeling so tired….so I casually tell her they are making babies. Please no other question. She goes quite. Phew! Thank God that’s over, lets just get the sugar and head back home. We definitely don’t use that path again.

Home we go and go on with our daily lives, matter forgotten. Monday….. Tuesday… Wednesday we are doing English homework and cas is asking me how to spell the word tailor. Then out of the blue she asks me “mum is making babies and sex the same?” blank mind…baby your only 7 how did you bring those two words together. No definite answer at that time.  So I ask what she thinks, she says I told her that the two dogs were making babies while some kid in school told her that they were having sex. Am totally dumbstruck.

I knew that at one time I will have to explain to her what sex is but never did I think that it would come this early. My ideal age was 11-12, but at seven all she needs to know is that she should not talk to strangers and no one should touch her body even if it’s someone she knows, to scream and run if confronted by one. But if her classmates are talking kissing and sex I might just as well start telling her the truth, instead of her getting some fabricated stories out there.

So we start sex and making babies lesson 101 from mother to child. I have opted to teach her gradually not everything at once. So we start with the basics boy and girl are the same the only difference is that boys pee pee and girl pee pees are different. She nods meaning that she already knows. Has seen the difference courtesy of  mr. chi. I continue when girls and boys grow up they wish to have babies of their own like mum and dad. She cuts me short” like the way I have my dolls, yes like that but this time live and hyper babies like you and your brother, I tell her. She nods, I smile we are getting there. So big girls and boys fall in love (it starts sounding cheesy to me…but I go on). What’s falling in love cas asks? so I give her an example like how she choose her doll from among many others, I ask her why, she says it because it was the best from the rest. I ask if she likes it, she says a lot, so I tell her the same way she likes it a lot it is the same as falling in love, dad liked mum a lot and mum liked dad a lot. She nods again, good, lets move on. 

So dad and mum get to know one another pretty well and there love for one another gets deeper and then they decide they want to have babies. So they have sex and mum gets a baby growing in her stomach. Like when Chi was in your stomach growing, she asks? Yes like that, but animals are different from people and the way they have sex is different from people. Dogs are animals and how they have sex is a called mating, but humans do it in a better way and privately. She nods her head again, I anticipate a question none is forthcoming. I don’t volunteer more information and thank God she does not ask me how it is done.

 So end of sex talk and babies. I hope the next time I talk about sex again is when she is 16 or 18. Who said parenting was easy! Wait for Mr. Chi’s time.